If you've read My Story then you know that in addition to being a fashion model, writer and coach I am the mother of two incredible boys with ASD. They amaze and delight me every day. Raising them is both my greatest joy, and my my biggest challenge. Usually when faced with challenges, I write about them.
To the Mom of Twins on the Spectrum
After the twins were born I underwent several hospitalizations. During this time of recovery, I wrote the boys a story. When Brett added illustrations, their sweet little story became my first published children's book Bumble Learns to Fly. It was written at a time when I had no idea we would soon be faced with much more to teach them beyond the art of patience. [If you know anything about autism, you know it actually is a great lesson for them.] And it's still one of their favorite books.
When the symptoms of ASD first began to manifest in the twins, we had to cope with the daily struggles we all were facing as a family while learning to navigate the systems and services available (or not available) to them. As you can imagine, there was a lot to learn! Instead of joining Mommy and Me groups, I was busy studying acronyms, types of therapies, attending parenting classes, educational meetings, and trying to unravel this new puzzle that was put before us.
As a contributor for Examiner, I had never written about anything that wasn't in some way related to modeling or pageants. That's because I was the National Modeling and Pageants Examiner even though I applied to be the Natural Beauty Examiner. But that's another story. It was when I discovered a website called The Mighty that I knew I wanted to someday contribute in a meaningful way to other moms like me who were going through this experience.
At the time, I didn't really know any other moms who had twins with ASD. But once the boys were enrolled in more services like therapies, school, and play groups, we were surprised to meet quite a few families, just like ours! In fact, there are more twins with autism than you might think.
Here is the link to my article featured on The Mighty:
When I began writing this piece, I wrote as though I was addressing it to other moms. Soon I realized I was really writing it to myself. But honestly, when I think of all the beautiful, smart, amazing parents out there who have crossed our paths, this article applies in many ways to each of their stories. Our stories are all so similar. We know what each other have been through, what we are going through today, and what we will go through tomorrow. Just like the bond of twins, the bond of twin moms and the bond of moms of kids on the spectrum is unique.
This is my very first story to be featured on The Mighty, and I'm so excited to share it with you. If you know any moms who might like to read it, please share it with them.